Posts for 'Effects of Divorce' Category

Should a dog be treated like a child when couples divorce? It's a question people are talking about after a judge in Maryland ordered a divorcing couple to share custody of their dog. A lot of people feel their pets are just a member of the family. However, until now, in divorce court they have been considered property. Either the pet goes fully to one party, or it's sold and the couple splits the proceeds.

For Gail Myers, "Lucky" is way more than a cute, loyal dog. "I  don't have any kids, so she is the closest that I am going to have to a child," Myers said. "I have another dog as well; they are both like my kids. So, when she decided to leave her husband, money and property didn't enter her mind. She left with "my clothes, a few personal items, and the dog ... That's all I wanted."

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My lawyer is not happy when I write about my divorce all over my blog. But as a career adviser I say all the time that the best careers are those that are authentic, so it would be weird to have this huge event going on in my life and not make any mention of it within the context of my own career.

And that's the bottom line - a marriage might be about love and the divorce about finances and kids. Both of those are linked to one's career. I go to the social worker to figure out how to handle the kids part of the equation, but as a career adviser myself, I have been thinking hard about things to do to keep the divorce from destroying my career. Here are my conclusions:

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Divorce is a tough thing for anyone to go through – it can be very hard on a person emotionally and physically. This is just as true for children. They will also need proper help during this difficult time.

Eventually you and your spouse will have to sit down together and make arrangements that will be suitable for you and your children. This will be much easier and less painful than having to go to court and have them decide this for you.

Don’t keep the divorce a secret from the children. You need to tell them about your decision to get divorced and what it will mean to them. Let them know that it was a mutual decision and that you both did your best to avoid a divorce.Make them understand that you and your spouse will not be getting back with each other and there is nothing they can do to make this change.

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Before you consider the time and expense of hiring an attorney you may first want to explore the benefits and advantages of hiring a mediator trained in divorce conflict. Using mediation shelters you and your children from the anxiety and emotional effects of divorce. For these reasons more divorcing couples are choosing Divorce Mediation.

Mediation permits separating and divorcing couples to take control, plan their own lives, and provides an atmosphere to continue communication and make joint decisions about the future of their children.

The compliance rate for mediation is higher because both parties, husband and wife, have jointly made the agreement. Clean Slate Mediation helps you explore all options and their consequences. We ensure that no party dominates or gives away too much or too little---there is balance and fairness.

Divorce is nothing new, especially in recent times. Divorce is a huge decision regarding breaking up of an important relationship after both the parties agree.

For most people, divorce is the last resort after they have tried everything to mend and repair the relationship.

Unfortunately, the rate of divorce has increased in the recent times and this could be because people are.

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Both parents should be there to talk to the child and they can’t get angry. Whatever differences they have they must put aside for the good of their child.

This is not about the parents anymore since the decision has been made to split up; it’s all about the kids. The parents have to let the child know that it has nothing to do with them.

That they did not cause it and that they are still very much loved by each parent. The children will have questions and depending on the age of the children.

The questions will vary. You have to be prepared to be honest and speak with one voice on everything that they ask. Blame does not matter at this moment.

You children are losing the full time access to one of their parents and that can be devastating to them. Their lives are going to change and they are scared.

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As the rise in divorce rates is steadily matched by a decline in the influence of such traditional institutions as the church and the family itself, schools are increasingly faced with a dilemma of national significance.

The pressure on schools to act as second parent to its students has been growing constantly since the sixties when the drug and sexual revolutions spread to school campuses. Often, at that time.

The schools chose to act as go-betweens in the conflicts of parents and students, trying to bridge what became known as the generation gap.

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I have been researching what is the Cause and Effect of Divorce. Many of my friends over the last few years have gone through the divorce process. Through my research the following are the top 10 causes for divorce.

   1. Commitment between partners -- Your expectations between partners don't match. Cheating between partners leads to mistrust and eventual divorce.
   2. Communication between partners -- Kind of a subset of commitment, however, when you stop talking to your partner, divorce is inevitable.
   3. Abandonment, Alcohol and Substance Abuse
   4. Physical, Emotional and Sexual Abuse.
   5. Can't learn to reconcile and manage differences between partners.
   6. Cohabitating before marriage can lead to a higher rate of divorce due to the initial comfort level achieved may not be reality when married.
   7. Expectations in household tasks and financial stress
   8. Overall misunderstandings between partners due to personal success or failures.
   9. Mental Illness
  10. Religious differences between partners can cause conflict.

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Divorce rates are lower in families where husbands help out with the housework, shopping and childcare, according to a study of 3,500 British couples published Tuesday.

The research by the London School of Economics (LSE), entitled "Men's Unpaid Work and Divorce", found that the more husbands helped out, the lower the incidence of divorce.

The study said its conclusions blew open the theory running since the 1960s that marriages were most stable when men focused on paid work and women were responsible for housework.

"The lowest-risk combination is one in which the mother does not work and the father engages in the highest level of housework and childcare," the study found.

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It has been observed that, despite the fact that the parents are divorced, adult children take care of their parents’ matters related to health and chances of them being caring are more when the parents are ageing unlike other countries like the US.

Researchers noted that out of the 75% of divorced parents, the chances of ill parents receiving help from their children increases by 9% every year.

It was also noted that more the children the more the help received. This study proves that the British adult children are ready to help their parents irrespective of the parent’s past and may put a helping hand forward depending on the need of the situation.

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