Is your love life under pressure? Are you troubled by your relationship? Get Ahead's Love Guru hosted a chat with readers on September 22 to help them deal with love problems. For those of you who missed it, here's the transcript.
Love Guru says, Hey there, people...welcome back to the Love Guru chat! Let's get started... sunil asked, Hi LG, If a girl knows that I am flirting and she also indulges in little flirting, what does it mean? she loves me or she is only interested in enjoying it? If she loves me, how to make her to propose me first
Love Guru answers, Sunil, not many women like to take the initiative. If you like her, why try to play games and get her to admit her feelings first? Instead of that, you should express your feelings, since you're sure of them. And since you say she responds to your flirting, what are you so afraid of? Nothing ventured nothing gained!
King asked, When your lover shout at you, beat you and say anything she wants but in turn if you do the same she takes it very negatively.. What should we do in such case..
Love Guru answers, Screaming at each other and hitting each other is not going to get you two anywhere. Especially the latter -- don't allow her to assault you. Walk out when she starts behaving like that. Explain that you're only willing to have a discussion, not a screaming match with punches thrown in, so when she thinks she's calm and mature enough to handle that, you can talk.
SB asked, I had an ex girl friend from my collage days who ditched me and eventually we both are now both married to diff partners. She has now contacted me after 15 years and is now supposidly mad-in-love with me. How should I tackle this ? Would remaining in touch as good friends be an alternative ?
Love Guru answers, She's probably turned to you because she's not happy with her marriage. Question is, are you? She ditched you and now life is not going well for her so she expects you to drop your wife and family life and go running back after 15 years? It doesn't quite work that way. And this 'good friends' business between exes doesn't work when one 'friend' is madly in love with the other! I would suggest you recommend that she opt for marital counselling and work out her personal life without getting you involved.
rambo asked, Hi LG, I am 29 years old and my family has been asking me to tie the knot for a long time now. My question to you is that i am an extremely change resistant person, and i dont know how i will react to the change from being single and independent to being responsible and married. Moroever, as a person i am in a zone of my own, when at home, i just keep watching TV or just surf the net, i dont like to move my butt unless i want to. I think these are some bad qualities which might ruin my married life. Do you think i am over reacting? Also, i lose interest in people pretty soon, and i dont want to be in a situation where i get married and start losing interest my wife...What should i do? Also, from my question you would have already understood that i am confused person, i sometime just dont know what to do !!!
Love Guru answers, For someone like you an arranged match would most likely be a mistake, since you say you easily lose interest in women. And then what? You'll blame your family for the miserable state of affairs and your wife will suffer. I would suggest that you decide what's best for you -- if you like life as it is, don't get married just yet. And if and when you do, make sure it's to someone you truly love and can think of spending the rest of your life with. Don't get hitched just because someone else thinks it's time for you -- you should be the judge of that!