On yesterday's post about the "it's not you, It's me" break-up strategy, there were a fair amount of responses. In favor of it. "The point of the 'it's not you; it's me.' or 'I'm an a-hole' is to get it over with swiftly. It's never going to feel good to be dumped, no matter who you are or why," wrote BaltAmour reader Ron. "There's no easy way to dump someone. Otherwise, you'd have blogged about it long ago."

But I'd argue that the problem with such a defense is not that it makes you feel bad -- anything you say that leads to a dumping is going to make you feel bad. And it's not that you expect a full-out list of the things that went wrong in the relationship; it's just an insult to get a canned, vague reason for the break-up.

I believe Catherinette Singleton explained it best. On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being mediocre: ...this defense is definitely level 10. Don't call yourself an ass when you break up with someone. Just freaking do it and tell them it's not working because you're not feeling it. You can't help the way you feel. If we could, the world would be a much better place. Your thoughts?